Father passing by his teenage daughter's bedroom was astonished to see the bed was nicely made and everything was neat and tidy. Then he saw an envelope propped up prominently on the centre of the pillow. It was addressed "Dad". With the worst premonition, he opened the envelope and read the letter with trembling hands:- Dear Dad, It is with great regret and sorrow that I'm writing you, but I'm leaving home. I had to elope with my new boyfriend Julian because I wanted to avoid a scene with Mom and you. I've been finding real passion with Julian and he is so nice to me. I know when you meet him you'll like him too - even with all his piercing, tattoos, and motorcycle clothes. But it's not only the passion Dad, I'm pregnant and Julian said that he wants me to have the kid and that we can be very happy together. Even though Julian is much older than me (anyway, 42 isn't so old these days is it? ), and has no money, really these things shouldn't stand in the way of our relationship, don't you agree? Julian has a great CD collection; he already owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. It's true he has other girlfriends as well but I know he'll be faithful to me in his own way. He wants to have many more children with me and that's now one of my dreams too. Julian taught me that marijuana doesn't really hurt anyone and he'll be growing it for us and we'll trade it with our friends for all the cocaine and ecstasy we want. In the meantime, we'll pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so Julian can get better; he sure deserves it!! Don't worry Dad, I'm 15 years old now and I know how to take care of myself. Someday I'm sure we'll be back to visit so you can get to know your grandchildren. Your loving daughter, Rosie. At the bottom of the page were the letters " PTO". Hands still trembling, her father turned the sheet, and read: PS: Dad, none of the above is true. I'm over at the neighbour's house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than my report card that's in my desk centre drawer. Please sign it and call when it is safe for me to come home. I love you! Your loving daughter, Rosie

Last day one of my friends shared me some of his problems regarding his personal life. He is in Love for past 5 years and many a times he said to me that he found his perfect match. And never ever go into other relations. As he is satisfied with her and she care him like her life.I remembered his words when he shared his problems.

His problem with his lover is simple in the view of others ,but when it comes into real life,It is not. May be this is an old rotten thread for the world. The way she loved him and now the way she love him is different. He felt so. At the beginning she was bit more caring and when she joined her career ,she become duty conscious..when the time he is also working, he find time for her to talk. The duty time of both is different. One has night duty and the other has day duty.As the lady is from Medical field her duty timings are different. He said to me ,even if his work got over by 6 'o' clock in evening he will wait for her up to 12 pm to talk with her and when he calls her, her reply will be in a tired mood. When he is romantic she is not..it's very hard to make her romantic. The real problem is that they have already been into intercourse and now he found it difficulty to cope up without a day's-talk with her. He needs her presence ,even if it is not available he needs her care through words. He tried to talk with her openly ,but she is still telling that she is the same old girl.He said while she is doing her duty ,at that time she don’t even send a message or atleast do a missed call.

From his talk I make out one thing, He is not talking about his sexual need. More over he want her to be romantic, more lovable. I walked with him into the depths' and understood that he is Moving slowly into depression which is dangerous. He said that I don’t feel like talking to her and calling her. I tried to counsel him and change his mind. He talked about his work-pressure and the couples in his work place and the way they enjoy life. I was Shocked to hear that, because he always advised our friends never compare your relationships. His words expressed his dissatisfaction in his relation. In a long Distance relations this are common. But the fellow seated behind me cant understand this because he is a person who give importance to family life more than anything. I asked him about his Physical relationship with her. He said he is completely satisfied with her.

I was thinking about this matter for some days. ..I know that ladies will be matured more than man while moving in relationship.But is it like that why she is more romantic while she is with him and extremely opposite while she is at duty place?

I started working on this issue and discussed with many of my friends who are Psychologists and psycatrists .Most of the answers were fair and just satisfactory. But it didn’t answered my questions after along search through the internet and psychological magazines and articles ai found an answer which I found more interesting

My Thoughts

With the psychological concepts as basis I enquired about his family.I found an interesting stuff that his grand father has 12 children and he was more dependent on his wife.He asked her presence at paddy field while working and even at the markets.In his last days he was more dependant on his wife and he used to walk with her in the day time.Probably you may think what this can do with the

Case?

Here is the catch.The sexual degree of response (SDR) and the Emotional Power vary form persons to persons on the basis of hereditary. It can be on two ways

1.It can be alternate (Grandfather-High

Father-Normal or low

Son-High

2.It can be continuous (ie same level for all)

If the grand father has this degree of response level high the grand child may poses it from 2 or 3 years from birth.It will start developing. Some children show the tendency to be feeded for 2-3 years.This Children show a tendency to mingle with the opp.sex very fastly.

But the main catch is that the Family Background will determine his ACTS. His movements and way of living will be determined by the parents lifestyle. If he is highly ethical then there is a high possibility that the person will have a High Controlling power over himself. In this type of Persons when he grows ,means when his personality forms, a parallel personality(lets call it second personality ) will also be formed. This is on the basis of the hereditary Character. This personality will have a high urge for the Emotions and desires' .I would like to define the development of personality in such a way. In order to have a good personality, self development is needed. An executive’s self is the sum total of all that he can call his own. Self is something of which he is aware of. The self concept which an executive brings to his job is the amalgamation of many things, his perception towards his parents, the rules he has learnt, the impressions he carries about his peers, the record of success and failure, and the idea of what rewards he deserves.

From the article :-

Biological factors:

The foremost determinant of personality is the biological factor, in which are included heredity, the brain and the physical stature. Psychologists and geneticists argue strongly that heredity plays an important role in one’s personality. The importance of heredity varies from one personality trait to another. For example, heredity plays a more important role in determining a person’s temperament than determining the values and ideals.

Here the article gave me a strong evidence for my thoughts.

The first personality which is formed on the basis of psychological and Physical factors which can be further broken down into Family factor, Environment Factor etc..The first personality will be have a strong moral base and ethical base.The family factor play a great role in that. But the second personality which is a part of first itself(for simplicity I called it second personality) has a differnce.It will be made on the basis of only biological factors. It will accept only the changes which to which it can adapt. It will see, hear and think only in the manner in which it is made up of. Even the person never knew about the second personality which is growing inside him unless and until he try to find it out. at some point of time some where between 18-25 it will be revealed to himself. Then there will be a clash between the first and second.

Before going further let me speak about the characters of first and second

The first is the personality which a Person show to the world or a MASK

He or She can change according to situations

Can cover the face with a mask of generous ,friendly character

But no body other than the person will come to know about the second

The second personality is highly emotionally driven

The person have High sexual desires

He or she can be sexually aroused at any time

The second personality can over come the first personality at times

It just a emotional desire for seconds

The second personality make the Human moving around opposite sex.This people generally most of them have a tact of attracting people through speaking or through other factors.They can Use their first personality as a cover to attract people. The opposite sex will get easily attracted to the first personality without much confusions. The way of speaking and their style is in such a way.They can be friendly for long time. Mostly it is seen that the people who having a high moral base will not allow the second personality to over rule.But they may express the feeling to their lover or Partner.Its not just sex,they look for caring and love and they will expect the caring at all times. Now a days the second personality is being accelerated by the Medias and Internet and and what the see.The open relationship through social networking sites also provoke the second personality to compel the first to overcome the Moral values and use the person for satisfying its need. Whatever they do,will be in privacy and rarely the speak about that. The second personality knows how to play with the situations.

The real problem starts after this. The doings of second personality will make the first to feel guilty and the person will feel the same. Then they will try to keep a distance with person they have done this rather there is also a chance for them to utilize the person to a short period ,but it never ever go beyond an extent. The second personality will feel difficult to adjust with the person for a long time .It slowly moves to other ,so does the person moves from one to another

But there is another face to this situation. Already I said the first personality, if it is powerful to over rule the thoughts of second ,it can Suppress the feelings or thoughts. If the first is Morally deterministic it can change the first condition. It will not go for another person in Opposite sex other than his wife.This also can happen. Even if it happened once and the First personality is enough powerful to control the persons mind ,then definitely this phenomenon can be controlled.

How can we Identify this type of persons?

Let me be honest.It is quite difficult. The person himself has 2 tell this or We can know from the Close friends of the person. It is very hard in other ways. If the person know this fact he will not share with anybody .But the people who know his /her personal life can easily make it out

Usually this people never express such things publically or personally .If he or she knows this is the right person then only they will take that person in that way and they are able to convince the people in the way they want.

What are the solutions?

I found one of interesting solutions that this type of persons, will fall into affairs or long term relations in teenages and stick to it, if the person really want to escape from it. Once if the guilty feeling started or when he came to know that his feeling is disturbing himself ,he will concentrate on his lover itself. This is one of the solutions from Practical life. This people never allow the second personality to over rule themselves.

The other solutions are building a moral bond within person and Avoid accelerators like Sensual films ,Porn sites and Movies and Such Situations.Yoga and Therapies(mind therapies) are other useful ways to escape from this feelings.More over talk openly to the partner about the syndrome and his sexual feelings so the partner will be able to satisfy the person throughout life.Many a times in long distance relationship this thing is common. It took me nearly one and half years to search for the reason and come to a solution.

Disclaimer:

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